Today, I bottled out.
I was not brave enough to go out with my child.
Not because I am a shy person, not because of the weather and not because he didn’t want to go out.
Simply because I was afraid that my beautiful brave boy would get hurt.
If you read ‘Where do we go from here?’ you will know that Adam said he wants to go to places, check their current toilet facilities and ask them to install a hoist assisted toilet with a changing table so that everyone can “go” there and stay all day.
I am so proud of him but I am also worried that he is going to experience huge disappointment and that he will feel hurt when he sees the facilities, even though he is prepared and knows they don’t exist for him.
Somehow, seeing things with your own eyes is just a new level of hurt, one which I am afraid will be too much for him to handle.
Think about it, if an attraction only had gents’ toilets would your daughter feel welcome or wanted?
Or if they had toilets where you had to find your way across a muddy field and then up a hundred steps and there wasn’t even a door to close behind you?
Because that is how it feels to us.
I feel like I am taking my son somewhere that he isn’t wanted. Toilets with a hoist and changing table are not new.
They have been around for over ten years, just like my son.
So why are they not everywhere?
Adam is just ten years old. He shouldn’t need to do this but if he doesn’t, who will?
Together we will get rid of all the barriers so that he sees only signs which mean he is wanted and welcome.
Please help him. Follow his “work” and share it widely.
Let every tourist attraction, service station, theatre and town (just to name a few) know that you believe in equality for all.