You made my son cry.

Why would anyone ignore three signs to leave 8ft for wheelchair access?

What kind of thoughtless person would you need to be?

Yet today you thought your need to park was more important than a wheelchair user’s need to get back in his vehicle.

We rarely park on the street because of people like you, but today we were in a hurry to reach an appointment on time. I had to trust that people would be kind and thoughtful.

Adam had his  chiropractor appointment first, the waiting room was busy and he wanted to get back to the security of his car, so headed back to the car with his personal assistant whilst I had my appointment.

Only he couldn’t get back in the car.

And my son cried.

My 10 year old son cried because of your thoughtless action.

Over twenty minutes later, when you returned, you looked more annoyed that I was cross with you, than sad that you had caused inconvenience.

You are a Blue Badge holder – you should know better!

You couldn’t fit your car in the space and you were parked partly on the pavement behind aswell. You knew you shouldn’t park there at all but you still did.

Your blasé comment of “I know a bit about this because I am disabled” did not help. YOU could walk up the hill, get in your car and drive off. My son can’t walk at all and couldn’t even get in his car till you moved. You have NO IDEA!

Your irritated “I’m moving now” comment didn’t help and you didn’t seem to care that my son had wanted to get in his car 20 minutes earlier.

A terse “sorry” and a brief “I’ll be more considerate in future”, said in a tone of irritation, not sadness, and you were off.

But my son is still hurting, still worrying that he won’t be able to get back in the car later and still confused as to why someone would treat him so badly.

Because that is the reality.

You treated a child badly today.

The tears filled his eyes and they are still stinging in my heart.

 

 

7 thoughts on “You made my son cry.

  1. So sorry to read that Adam was truly upset due to the ignorance of this obvious moron. He’s the idiot that gives genuine blue badge holders bad recognition. I know where he parked, it’s a pavement area with a lowered kerb for ease of crossing the road. Total disrespect not just to Adam but to pedestrians, and he’s knowledgeable due to being disabled himself. I question that. Isn’t Redruth a very steep main Street, and he was gone for 20 minutes?
    I hope you and Adam can avoid his ‘type’ in future, and all that unnecessary upset. You can argue and fight ignorance, but you can’t win, that’s the unfortunate truth.

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  2. Unfortunately this is not unusual. I have to be able to line up my wheelchair in the road to be able the get it up the ramp, so need all of the space requested to be able to do so and it is often other disabled people who ignore that and park right behind my back bumper, meaning that the car has to be moved out and the wheelchair has to be in the traffic. If I am on my own, having to leave the scooter in the road, get round to the car,get in, move it, get out and back to the scooter is enough to cause me agonising pain, breathlessness and then atrial fibrillation. Then I have to sit down in the traffic until everything settles down before I can load the scooter and get in the car again. People should not deprive others of their independence. I become less and less keen to go out as often as not, I have to give up and go home because of the lack of parking. Our council keeps changing things and leaving fewer places to park and they keep building spaces into the pavement, with other vehicles behind, instead of making the last space the disabled one so that it is wheelchair accessible and in much of Bath, it is difficult to park if you are a wheelchair user.

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    1. It is a huge problem. This year I have been fortunate to get to know a larger number of adult wheelchair users (who better for me to learn from as a parent to a child with complex needs?) and I have been surprised to discover that many have mental health difficulties. Although, the more I listen to them, the less surprised I am.

      My son needs a hoist and bench in order to use a toilet. I was deeply upset after discovering a chap online who has barely left his home in 10 years after a bowel movement in a cinema and there being nowhere for him to be able to to clean up till he got home. It makes me more determined that ever to bring about positive changes.

      With parking, all too often people just have no idea, no understanding and no interest to learn.

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  3. I am so sorry to read this and I hope that Adam gets over this. This type of behaviour is now so typical that it’s prevalent around the entire country. Motorists don’t care how they affect other people at all and when it comes to those with disabilities, well, they’re invisible.

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